Swinger's Rules
The context of swinging, couples need not be married.
They should at very least have a little history together
and familiar with each others’ emotional needs. This is
a very important rule when it comes to being comfortable
approaching other couples who are in a swinger
lifestyle.
The general rule of thumb is that swinging works best
when couples view swinging as an enhancement to their
existing sexual relationship, rather than to replace a
fail one. If you are thinking of entering the swinger
lifestyle good communication is critical.
There are many different kinds of swinging. Remember
whichever one you choose is good as long as your partner
and you are clear about what you are doing and why. Sex
is a powerful part of human experience and the pleasures
that may be found in swinging can generally be reached
only when both partners are sensitive to each others'
needs. Each must put their partner's confidence and
comfort first. From a more realistic point of view,
there will always be another party, another personal ad,
another dance, or another convention.
There may not be another chance to save an exploration
into swinging if one partner becomes overwhelmed with it
and forgets to treat his or her primary partner with
sensitivity and respect. It is important to remember
swinging is only a primarily social activity.
The normal social customs of meeting people and
initiating a conversation are really not that different
than at any other type of social interaction.
The process by which associates become close friends is
not that different either. The key social behaviors that
tend to be appreciated in the swinging community are
responsibility, friendliness, flirtatiousness,
open-mindedness, and most importantly stability with
regard to one's primary relationship.
It might be worth thinking about whether there are any
potential situations that you feel you would be more or
less comfortable in and then discuss these with your
partner. The pros and cons of whether or not you and
your mate are compatible with the swinging lifestyle or
even interested in it are many. Whatever you do, be sure
that both of you are committed to it before ever trying
it out.
Swinging is not simply being open about your sexual
feelings and being adventurous about it. You and your
partner should follow some swinging principles to ensure
that your encounter is also fun and fulfilling. The
following are some suggested swinging principles that
you and your partner may want to use:
Both mates in a swinger couple shouldn't never attempt
to break up a marriage.
When a date is made, always keep up to it or else give
ample time of notice for changing circumstances.
It is important to keep the first meeting on a "no
strings attached" basis. Both partners should be
prepared to swing if it is mutually agreed or to give an
honest answer if something does not work out.
It is reminder that never under any circumstances
exercise pressure on each other to swing.
It is suggested that the couple restrict discussions of
swinging to known swingers and interested individuals
seeking information.
Be wise and protect the anonymity of other swingers by
abstaining from unauthorized "name dropping."
For the stake of other swingers, always maintain the
highest standards of personal cleanliness and
appearance.
Be smart and not to engage in any unlawful activity that
would harm the reputation of other swingers as a group.
Always be friendly and warm with any swing partner. Be
understanding that there is a type of emotional
involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or
"primary significant other."
Lastly, remember to show respect for the personal
attitudes and feelings of other swingers. |