Swingers Lifestyle
NASCA (North American Swing
Clubs Association) defines Swinging as, "social and
sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate,
boyfriend or girlfriend, excepting the traditional
one-on-one dating.
Swinging is not the same as swapping, because lots of
swingers (men and women) are still single, so no need to
swap. A good definition might perhaps be "recreational
sex". In summary, swinging is for (mostly) heterosexual
people who enjoy sex for its own sake, as opposed to
purely within one relationship. Sex as a hobby.
Some people said that swinging lifestyle started in
United Kingdom ( UK ) and later starting to gain
acceptance by the rest of the world. Well, I am not
really sure how it get started but it is not easy to
involved in swinging lifestyle. A few important things:
first, no one should swing unless they really want to.
No one should ever go into it if they are at all
uncertain of their own wishes, or of the strength of
their emotional relationship with their partner.
Swinging can (and often does) strengthen couples'
attachment to one another. But equally, it can and does
wreck relationships too. If you can't discuss it openly
between yourselves or if one partner keeps bringing it
up you almost certainly shouldn't go there.
Swingers lifestyle is based upon communication more than
any other factor. Swinging couples have an ability to
talk openly about there feelings with one another and
learning to do that must precede any decision or
discussion of entering the Lifestyle.
A good way to start the process with a spouse is to talk
about sexual fantasies, particularly those sexual
fantasies that involve other people. Once you have
established that your fantasies can be more of a source
of excitement than a threat, it is much easier to begin
talking in terms of bringing those fantasies into the
real world.
No matter how you start the communication, it is not
generally a good idea to simply blurt out, "Hey, do you
want to swing?". Most people who have been in a long
term monogamous marriage are going to be taken aback by
that approach, and failure is almost assured. It is best
to establish the idea over a period of time rather than
try to rush.
You can't "swing" without your spouse's knowledge and
consent. That isn't swinging. You would be having an
affair. Swinging requires two consenting adults who are
open to the idea of participating in the lifestyle
together. Most swinging couples are not going to have
anything to do with someone who is sneaking around on a
spouse. Swingers as a group are very proud of the fact
that they are open and honest about their sexuality.
Cheating is considered to be the antithesis of
everything that the swinging lifestyle is about and
besides, the swinging community is already assailed by
literally millions of solo males looking to get laid.
Your best bet is to work on the communication in your
marriage and try talking about the swingers lifestyle
some more. Swingers as a group are very proud of the
fact that they are open and honest about their
sexuality. Cheating is considered to be the antithesis
of everything that the swingers lifestyle is about.
Remember, that swinging isn't for every couple. If you
can't agree on it, maybe it is not for you.
It is generally not a good idea to swing with friends,
unless you met them through swinging: even then, many
swingers have a "one-hit" rule, so emotional
complications/attractions can't arise.
When you do meet someone you think you might like, be
frank about what you like or don't like, and demand the
same from the person or people you meet. If you don't
like them for any reason, just politely turn them down.
If YOU get turned down, don't be offended.. You will be
just what someone, somewhere, is looking for. This is
ALL about people's right to do absolutely what they
like, and nothing they don't like.
Lastly, swingers must be very health conscious. Always
practice safe sex and make sure yourself is disease
free. Most swingers say they always practice it, but in
reality, most probably don't. So there is always some
kind of health risk, however careful you are (condoms
are no protection against crabs, for instance). It is
for you to make your own judgement. But no-one will ever
complain if you choose to be super-careful. And it is a
fact that sexually-transmitted diseases are far more
common among teenagers than among swingers.
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