Swinger party Etiquette
Before attending a swinger
party a couple must learn some etiquette and basic rules
first. This is a small guide for new swinger couples.
New swinger couple arriving!
Since you're the newbie you need to keep this in mind:
swinging is for open-minded couples, it wont be viewed
favorably if one partner leaves early and the other
stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go
remember you and your mate are trying to become a
swinger couple not two single swingers.
The swinger party won't last forever
Arrive early or alt least on time. Its not fashionable
to turn up late to parties, as the night may have
already got underway, and may it be people who have
already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also
be harder for others to fit in. If you're arriving late
give the party host a ring and check with them, they may
update him/her on how the night is going so he/she may
walk straight into it. Be polite The swinging lifestyle
is full of insecurities and uncertainties. You should
behave as a real swinger couple. As the saying goes ,
treat people in the way you want to be treated,
sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.
In swinger parties if you're not friendly you're out
Be friendly with every one, even when not wanting to
take it further with them, there should be other things
in common, or they may start introducing people. Many
swingers don't swap or have intercourse with other
couples but after going to two or more parties
As any person, swingers like gifts
Phone the party host and ask them if there’s any thing
they're needing , always arrive with something for the
hosts. Pack what ever may be needed, toothbrush, comb,
perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. Neat casual
clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or
negligee, it may be more comfortable as the evening
progresses.
Health and hygiene
In a swinger party you should interact in many different
ways with other swinger couples. The main thing that may
turn the potential partners off may be bad breath or
body odor. Have a shower before leaving for the party.
Only do what is really fun. The whole idea is to enjoy
one self, that’s why the lifestyle and its parties
exist.
How and why to say no
The most basic and important in swinger party etiquette
is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks,
is all that is required. There's no need to explain, as
this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to
say no, every one has the right, and if someone does end
up doing things he/she doesn't want to it may cause more
ill-felling and embarrassment.
Do not be pushy
If one fancies swinging with someone let them know in a
nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do
not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and
hurtful. If they decide not to swing with you, do not
carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them,
as this may do a lot more harm than good.
Alcohol
Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking
socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform
to get to know other swingers, it may also help anyone
relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it
may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a
turn off for many people. If anyone need to drink
heavily to participate in the party this isn't the
lifestyle for his/her.
Practice safe sex
It is up to every swinger to protect his/her self and
his/her partner. The use of condoms should not offend
any one, it is not saying one is dirty, it is simple a
means to protect all swingers involved. Anyone not
willing to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible.
How ever, saying that, if all participating people are
happy not to, it may be down to discretion.
Do not take someone to a swinger party who is not fully
informed.
This is an obvious one, don't take any one to a swinger
party who doesn't know what there going to, it is very
embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause
problems. Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A
ticket is someone who goes with another person to the
party just to get a third one in, but has no intention
swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one
person swings, it is normally expected that the other
one is willing to swing. The group room is for group
swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for
group swinging, if any wants privacy do not go to the
group room, if one take a partner with him/her into the
swinging room they may expect others to ask to join them
, obviously still there's the right to refuse.
Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others
If in a bedroom or the group room, do not disturb the
swinging of others with prolonged talk. This may be very
mood-destroying and very annoying! If a party is BYO,
only drink what you bring BYO, also known as BYOB (bring
your own booze), only drink what you bring, unless under
permission from others.
Enjoy yourself
Probably the most important one, approach every thing
with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your
fantasies, and enjoy your self.
Call to say thanks
Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may
get anyone invited again, and it may let the hosts know
that they provided a good party. If you follow this
suggestion you'll always be well received in a swinger
party. |