FOR SWINGER NEWBIE
Many adult couples enjoy
fantasizing about having sex with other people, more and
more of these people are deciding to make these
fantasies become a reality, which is great news for
people already in the lifestyle, as they always enjoy
having new swingers to come and join them. There are of
course pitfalls and there are several things to consider
before coming and joining the fun :
Don't push or pull one another into the lifestyle.
Talk about each one's fantasies , if both people want to
make them a reality, then start making contact with some
swinger couples or people.
If either one in the couple is not ready, STOP. Dragging
a reluctant partner to meet another couple ( even for
soft swinging), or taking them to a party is not going
to make them change their minds. There is a very high
risk that it will lead to the end of the relationship .
Decide what the boundaries are. Don't go alone to a
swingers meeting or party without making sure to have
agreed on what each one is happy doing, and what area's
are no go zones. For example, may be both agreed that on
the first swingers meeting they will be happy for both
of them to get involved in everything except full
intercourse, as long as both know what the boundaries
are, and they have told the people they are meeting what
they are , there will be no problems as long as everyone
remains sticked to them.
Just arriving home the same night, talk about the
experience, be it good or bad, make sure both were OK
with it, and want to move forward, or otherwise , to
stop. If the feeling in that moment is happiness and want
to move forward, decide what changes, if any, should be
done to the rules under which the game is being played .
Never step outside the boundaries without agreement,
don't try to modify the boundaries on the evening,
always start the evening knowing exactly what is and is
not allowed. There have been seen people getting
divorced because they did not keep to their agreements.
Never fall in love! Swinger lifestyle is about having
fun with other adult people. Most of these people are in
happy relationships and are looking for sex, not love.
Declaring love for someone is going to complicate the
issues, and put strains on everyone's relationships, it
could even destroy the other persons marriage.
Looking for love? A suggestion from an adult swinger
couple ,you better check one of the many lonely hearts
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